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Emotions… What?


… a team can have everything going for it – the brightest and most qualified people, access to resources, a clear mission – but still fail because it lacks group emotional intelligence.

Vanessa Urch Druskat & Steven Wolff, 2001, p. 89

Emotional Intelligence…


During my doctoral journey many years ago I was introduced to the idea of Emotional intelligence (EI). This greatly sparked my interest, mostly because I am a realist and do not believe IQ defines how valuable people are to an organization. The value of employees and what they can offer is much deeper than simply what a number or piece of paper can define. As I continued my exploration of the idea of Emotional Intelligence I found myself viewing colleagues, leaders, relationships, etc. with a much deeper perspective. We live and breathe based on emotions, so why are we afraid to display these in our professional and personal lives? I have asked several leaders I currently work with why they are so afraid to demonstrate emotions of any kind in the workplace and their answer was… FEAR. Fear of judgment, fear of looking weak, fear of not being respected as a leader. My response… this is really about the fear of looking vulnerable, looking like a normal human who has feelings, is this a bad thing? In an article published by Positive Psychology's Dr. Helen Brown presented the following, “EQ has been linked to better task performance, organizational citizenship behaviors of employees (Côté & Miners, 2006), higher company rank, and higher scores of stress tolerance and interpersonal facilitation (e.g., positive interaction) as rated by peers and/or supervisors (Lopes et al., 2006b).” Research is clear that Emotional Intelligence provides a solid foundation in the workplace. It is my belief, based on the plethora of research available, organizations in every field should be making this part of their professional development plan.


“… the concept of emotional intelligence suggests that intelligence may understand emotion, and that emotion may facilitate intelligence.

Joseph Ciarrochi, Joseph Forgas, & John Mayer, 2006, p. xvi


Whether your a business owner or simply for personal growth ask yourself the following,

Are you able to recognize when your emotions take over?

Can you manage your emotions effectively?

Are you able to motivate yourself?

Can you recognize emotions in others?

How do you handle the various relationships you encounter daily?


Reflect on your answers to these questions on a much deeper level, being honest with yourself. We are all a work in progress and personal growth is something that never ends. Everyday is a new day to continue to love yourself and the world around you.


I’d love to hear from you, let me know how you are continually becoming the best version of yourself. Email thekalmeffect@gmail.com or leave your feedback in the comments.


Stay KALM my friends!



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